Yes, I have taken a conscious break from blogging. Struggling with content is still an issue, but in light of other things it really was best to check out. While I would love to tell you that it's just been busy for us, and that is partly true especially with our son's surgery, there have been situations needing dealt with and things happening with some family members that have made the blog the least of my worries. In the last few months my husband and I have had a member from each family diagnosed with breast cancer, another continue to go down the hard struggle with Alzheimer's, another with possible Alzheimer's, another who had some major hardships following a surgery, and another who had a heart attack. When I had a total melt down I new it was best to leave the blog before I said something that was horrible or just spewed only cuss words for a blog post. But in the spirit of Thanksgiving, I wanted to flip things a little bit and discuss why I am thankful for Cold Urticaria. Yes, you read that right, I am thankful for Cold Urticaria.
Being a first time parent is scary. You seek out so much advice and other advice that you do not want is freely given. You never know what to do, who to believe, and try everything. CU has made us take the reigns. We deal with the situations the best we know how and rather than asking for advice, we say "here's how it's going to be". Have we made mistakes, you bet ya! But they were ours and ours alone.
2. It's shown me what an amazing husband I have.
I've talked before how I went through the 7 steps of grieving upon diagnosis. My husband has been there for me through it all. He has supported me through all that I have done, the group, the website, writing for magazines, talking with congress, he has been my biggest supporter. When something happens and I feel low, he is there to pick me up, when it's great news he is the one to celebrate with me the most. CU didn't make my husband this way, he always has been and I knew it, but without Cold Urticaria, I may not realize it as much as I do.
3. Our children have had struggles.
This seems mean, I know. But the simple harsh truth is that life will never be fair and struggles will find their way into anyone's life and at anytime. With CU our children know this hard truth, and are doing well. With as much school as they miss, our daughter made the honor role. Our son is reading at a grade level above. They have friends that are loyal, instead of the ones that left them when CU came into our life. They know if you work hard, you can overcome hardships and struggles.
4. I do not judge.
It's easy to see other people's stories on the news or hear stores from friends and rush to judgment. I can honestly say that I no longer do this, I strive to understand both sides. I guess it's also made me more inquisitive. I love to learn more about any condition that affects a person.
5. I have learned to look on the bright side and win all the time!
Yes, I have days that I struggle...we all do. But I really have learned to look on the bright side. During our son's surgery at the end of October, he had a reaction on the table. When they told me this, I instantly asked about his heart. When the doctors said that this time the reaction never affected his heart, which was different from last surgery, I took it as a major win. When the kids go to school during winter, I celebrate, it's another win. With the pool staff increasing the temperature of the water so our kids can go swimming or take lessons, I celebrate another win, and most of all I celebrate their compassion.
6. Last but not least, I notice people's compassion more.
You've heard me discuss some of the issues we have had with certain people, and a lot of you have contacted me with similar stories, it comes with the territory. But, I do want to bring up the great ones as well. Like I mentioned earlier, the pool staff who has increased the temperature, the teachers who have taken it upon themselves to research Cold Urticaria and do the best they can for our children or at the very least listen to the doctors orders, to the people that turn down their central air when we walk into their homes so the kids don't get to chilled. I recognize all of this and appreciate it so much. Had it not been for this crazy life, I don't think I would have noticed moments of compassion as much as I do now. I also strive to do the same for others. Paying the difference (as long as I can afford it) when someone doesn't have enough money to cover prescriptions or helping the elderly woman with her shopping at the grocery store the other day as our town was preparing for a blizzard, or the kids giving their allowances to the couple ringing the bells in front of the store for Salvation Army, telling my husband that they wanted to help because they have it pretty good. I guess you could say we subscribe to the pay it forward theory, and I love it.
So those are just a few of my reasons why I am thankful that Cold Urticaria has come into our life, and I would love to hear your reasons for being thankful for CU.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!!